October 28th, 2008
No one cares, they only care for your physical well-being. If I were to tell someone about a state of mind, or maybe a problem, maybe just something I’m concerned with. They wouldn’t answer it because they truly care. No matter who they are to me. They would answer because I am presenting to them a problem that they now feel the need to solve. They would not be ok with themselves if they would not help me with a solution. They avoid these situations. This is how we care, to not hurt ourselves. We do have a care to do the right thing, to help others. However, as long as things look fine physically, we think it’s fine. ”How is life” is only asked to put us all on the spot and teach us to seem happy. Next time I will have a prepared real answer. They will call me negative, they won’t find me very fun, just too truthful. At least they won’t ask me that question again. And through all this time, they will not feel self-conscious, because everytime they do, they fill it with something to protect themselves from their human flaws. This protection is often inhumane, and doesn’t quite make sense. Like paying extra for a “Green” tag, to make you feel like you’ve done your part and that you’re a good person. Put out that cigarette, and forget about your patches!
Is it really bad when a moment creeps to being awkward? When even the most realistic fake smile makes you panic. Do you feel exposed? Maybe you should stop living for the world, start to explore your own. Then you will see, a body by it’s own, looking to understand the system, circling the skies for answers of your own, wondering what others think. How is life, my friend. What have you been doing with your mind lately. I don’t care about your clothes, “life”, or makeup. How are you? 
October 28th, 2008 at 8:25 am
How are you? On the second though, I’m sure you’ll talk about it in the next post.
October 28th, 2008 at 4:28 pm
“I’m fine” goes the typical response. Reality is a mixture of pain, joy, peace, frustration, and all the emotions in between. I get annoyed with people who ask who I am, because half the time I don’t really know.
Usually I answer something like “OK” or “all things considered, I’m doing fine”. But the question is, is the asking party legitimately asking a question, or are they just using a common greeting? “How are you?” is usually not a question, it’s a statement, a nod to the other person, which basically says, “I need to find something to acknowledge your presence, so I’ll just say the first thing that comes to mind.”
My reaction? I usually say, “Fine, thanks,” and change the subject. For most of the day, I don’t legitimately care about the other person’s status, I’m just trying to get information on their tech support problem as quickly as possible so I can solve their problem efficiently. I try to only ask how another person is if I legitimately want the information, so the people whom I really care about know that I care about them. Most people I speak with on the phone, I will never speak with again in my life, so what does it matter how they are? If I fix their problem, they go away, and it’s ‘have a nice life’.
October 28th, 2008 at 4:28 pm
First sentence should say ‘I get annoyed with people who ask HOW I am’. Makes the next sentence sound schizophrenic.
October 28th, 2008 at 7:58 pm
But shouldn’t you know how you are? I think that just means you need to spend more time with yourself. (could this be why our minds start conversations with us, at the end of the day when we’re done with our day things?)
That’s a good example on greetings. There is a huge difference in the American culture, compared to the Russian culture. For example, if an American would see a girl with blue hair and would think bad of the girl because of it, the American would tell her “Nice hair”. To point out the obvious, unique, to be nice. Now a Russian would just look at her thinking she’s not normal (not in the good way), without saying a word. An American greeting is more about breaking the ice, so that they will be comfortable enough to speak with you. A Russian greeting usually isn’t “How’s it going”, but more of a just “You’ve arrived, we meet.” Understanding both sides, I do see the importance of a more open conversation, but it is a greeting, not an all-open friendship that often results in misuse of words like “and so, I’m like, you know, oh my god.”
If you were to ask me “How’s it going?” while I’m looking for help from you to get my computer working again, I would find it completely irrelevant.
But if you were to greet with something like: “how tired are you of this problem? I know I would be..” Then I think the person on the other end would be more thankful and happier with you and your help. 
First sentence – Well that’s not the only point I tried to make..
October 29th, 2008 at 8:02 am
People don’t want to hear what’s on your mind. Thoughts, emotions, and state of mind is a sensitive issue. I have only a couple friends that when I call, we actualy talk about what’s actualy going on.
However, the reality of it is, that it is fine to feel fear, frustration, confusion, etc. Everyone does, though it’s not ok to discuss. Everyone want’s to show that they know what their life is about, the direction it’s heading, and they got their head straight. CA is full of fake people, who all have their own agendas, you’ll be lucky if they even hear you out when you answer the question “How are you” Most of the time it’s just too long to listen, they are looking for a one word answer…..
I think it scares people. If you discuss any part of confusion on your mind, it will make you sound schizo
So now I feel sad, that’s how I am
December 24th, 2009 at 8:48 pm
how am i . well usually people care about them self’s first like my friends when i was doing what i shouldn’t be doing(hurting myself ) they couldn’t stop me they would just sit by me not like they don’t care
they do care in a way , well it would be so messed up if someone could read your mind , so the person would know everything what your thinking he or she would be shocked and would try to keep a distance a huge distance like GOD HE KNOWS everything about us how we sin how we fall spiritually physically but he cares he picks us up even if we don’t deserve it .. he loves us so much
but then a day a week maybe a month or a year passes by and we go and make the same mistake then what the devil tells us that we don’t deserve to live that god wont forgive us and then we want to kill our self’s then by little by little some people find out that some person finds out that Ur suicidal she or he just goes and firkin makes rumors about you
sometimes were so stuck to something so badly that we would die for it we care about it so much we would do anything for some foolish dream like girls like to dream about some prince witch turns out to be an es hole sorry for the word anyways allot of teens cut them self’s
and why do they do that usually they do that to feel the pain to understand that there still alive
they want to die but in there hearts they would do anything to live
………
well how am I If someone asks me that afcorce I would say im good
we should enjoy what we have
December 25th, 2009 at 12:11 am
@niki-
Hm. Interesting point.
In my opinion, life shouldn’t be as shallow and black & white. Since you mentioned God and Devil, how is “How are you” not a work of Devil himself? Instead of working out our problems, we end up saying “I am good” and keeping our real problems inside to beat ourselves up overtime. This gives us pain and makes life seem very black & white. “To live or not to live.” Why should that ever be a question? When we are at our lows in life, we are still alive. When we are in our out-of-our-mind highs in life, we are still alive. Depression and problems come for a reason, and if we do not dedicate time for them, to figure them out and get past them, then it is only natural for us to suffer from them!
Yet, whatever we’re going through.. “I’m good.”